Christmas In The North Room

Christmas in the "North Room" in 1956. Grandma Juanita Bean is to the far right, grinning at the camera. Grandpa (Joe Bean) is in the very front, looking away from the camera. We know this is 1956 because Juanita is expecting Michael Bean who was born in March, 1957. Grandpa Tommy Driscoll is back far left in the checked shirt and overalls.

My Mother-in-law, Juanita (Driscoll) Bean, comes over to our house nearly every night and we have a cup of coffee together. She always says "You Make The Best Coffee I Ever Tasted!" so I guess I pass muster as a good son-in-law!

When Grandma (that's what I call her) came over tonight, I decided to probe back in her memory about Christmas when she was a little girl. She was born in September of 1934 so almost four score years have passed since these memories took place. I'll just write this as if I'm asking the question and try to give her reply in narrative as best I can.

Ray - Did you have a Christmas Tree when you were growing up?

Grandma - Oh Yes! We would go down to the "Cupper 40" (I believe this is Cooper but she sounds the O as a U) and cut us one. We didn't have any Christmas trees on our place so we had to go south to the Cupper 40 to get one. Daddy (Grandpa Tommy Driscoll) wouldn't let us use the truck to haul it so we just had to drag it home I guess. We had to be careful not to tear all the limbs off of it! (laughs) Sometimes we would get one from the woods west of the house. As we were walking to school at Center School, we would keep a watch out for a good Christmas tree. Mom (Grandma Annie Driscoll) always put the tree up a couple of weeks before Christmas.

Ray - Where in the house would Grandma Driscoll put the tree?

Grandma - Well... (thinking) She would put it in the Front Room. That's what we called the North Room. It was bigger than the South Room and she put the tree in there so there would be room for everybody. Now I do remember Mom switching the rooms and using the North Room for the bedroom and the South Room for the Front Room. When the Christmas tree was in the North Room, Mom put it in front of the double windows on the north wall. (I never found out where the tree was put up in the South Room) Now in later years, Mom and Dad used the South Room as their bedroom and closed off the North Room. (Ray - Did they put the tree up in the bedroom???) No. They put the tree up in the kitchen. They would put it up in the northwest corner of the kitchen, beside the door that went out to the north porch. (If you are confused right now, don't feel alone. We had to draw a map of the house to figure out the North Room, South Room, Kitchen, Was the Bedroom in the South Room or the North Room... Whew!)

Ray - How was the Christmas tree decorated?

Grandma - Mom had some ropes, at least they looked like ropes that were about "that" big around (she measured about three/quarters of an inch with her thumb and forefinger). They were green and red and had kinda like balls on them. She had icicles and the big glass balls. In later years, she got some lights to put on the tree!

Ray - What did Grandma Driscoll put on top of the tree?

Grandma - A star.

Ray - Did you celebrate Christmas at Center School?

Grandma - Oh Yes! We would have a Christmas Play and I think we would have a big meal. We would draw names by grade to exchange gifts. Santa Claus would come to school and hand out all the gifts under the tree. (Ray - Who was Santa Claus? Grandma thought long and hard on this one) I think it was one of the Chestnuts. They lived out there by us. It was the Daddy I think.

Ray - Did you hang up your stockings?

Grandma - Yes we did. Sometimes Daddy would get oranges and apples and those nuts... (Ray - Like pecans... mixed nuts) Yes. The ones you have to crack. They would be in our stockings.

Ray - What is the first Christmas gift that you remember getting.

Grandma - Hmmmmm.... (thinking) It was a dress.

Ray - How old were you?

Grandma - About six years old.

Ray - What color was the dress?

Grandma - (With a little smile... remembering) It was lavender, with little white (polka) dots. Mom made it for me and it had sleeves and was gathered at the waist. It was pretty!

END

Just a few thoughts of my own...

People are so smug and uppity today because they have a Christmas tree in their bedroom... or in their bathroom... or in their dining room. Well Whooptedoo... Grandma Driscoll was way ahead of her time with a Christmas tree in her Kitchen!

What is the first Christmas gift you can remember getting? Could you remember it as vividly as Grandma Bean? The look in her eye was as if she was looking at the dress and describing it.

Grandma Bean is 82 years old. I think it is remarkable for her to be able to recall these events in such detail. I can't speak to the accuracy of all her memories, but I just wanted to record "Her" Christmas Memories...

The Driscoll Christmas Tree in the North Room. (And for all the Driscolls to enjoy - an exceptionally good picture of DeDe in the front right!!!

Update: December 10, 2016

I got to visit with Uncle Jim (Lloyd) Driscoll today about Grandma's recollections. Jim is a couple of years older than Grandma and is her youngest brother. I asked Uncle Jim what he remembered about the tree.

Uncle Jim: I don't ever remember the tree being in the kitchen. Sometime down in October, Mom (Grandma Driscoll) would tell me, "You be on the lookout for a Christmas tree. A few weeks before Christmas, Mom would say "Jim, go get the tree." I would go down to the Cooper 40 (Uncle Jim pronounced it like Grandma. Cupper 40) and cut the tree and drag it all the way home. It's a wonder it had any limbs left on it! Sometimes I couldn't find a whole tree that was good enough so I would just cut the top out of a bigger tree! (laughs).

END

Uncle Jim had this picture of his Mom and Dad, Tommy and Annie Driscoll sitting in front of the Christmas tree in the North Room. You can see the "ropes" and icicles that Grandma mentioned and I believe you can faintly see some glass balls on the tree. This picture was taken in 1947 so Tommy was 52 years old and Annie was 48 years old.

The Christmas Story (From the Book of Lucas)

Baby Jesus was lying in the manger, in the stable, with Mary and Joseph watching over Him. The Shepherds had come to see the Savior and had already gone back to their flocks, rejoicing and praising God. The Wise Men had followed the star and were still at the manger with their gifts of gold, frankincense and myrrh....

When all of a sudden, this bear shows up! He has a deep voice and is singing about this being "The Most Wonderful Time Of The Year!"

This is scary for Baby Jesus... So Joseph decides Mr. Singing Bear has to go.

It isn't long until there is "Danger at the Manger!" An Iguanodon Dinosaur suddenly appears in the town of Bethlehem! It seems very likely that the Christ Child is about to be devoured!!!!

But thankfully, Mr. Iguano chooses to make a meal of one of the Magi...

Luckily, The Wise Man escapes... And decides to quit the astronomy business and become a paleontologist!

My First Deer

This should be a short story. The reason being; My first deer kill was not all that dramatic and awe-inspiring. And... it was illegal. *I am sure hoping the statute of limitations has run out for this foray into delinquency...

I'm guessing (from the picture above) that it was the 1978 deer season and I would have been 14 years old. I also know that it was not opening morning since I am in my school clothes. If I were guessing (and I am) it was in the middle of the week of season.

On mornings that I had to go to school, Dad would drive the backroads and "Road Hunt". If you aren't familiar with this highly technical term, let me bring you up to speed. When there is enough light in the morning (or light left in the evening) to see, you drive the old dirt roads, slowwwwwly, and watch for deer in the woods or fields.

*And since hunting from a vehicle and from a public roadway was against the law... The real secret to a successful "Road Hunt" was knowing what the game warden's vehicle looked like...

This particular morning, we had "made a circle east" past county line and were working our way back west into Howell County and eventually onto 160 Highway for the trip to the Jr. High to drop me off. I was dressed for school and was pretty bummed out that I couldn't skip school and hunt.

We came west across the Howell-Oregon county line at Uncle Ellis's "80" and continued on past Roy Merritt's place. We went through the cross road, on past Dave Ryan's house and finally came to the big hill where the road went around the sink hole. This is where the "Old Bob Thompson Place" started, and since we hunted there, we knew there was a real possibility of seeing deer. Dad drove real slow, down the hill past the field on the north, up the hill, around the curve and we were just about to go down the hill to Droop Harris's land, when I started whispering "Stop! Stop, Dad! Stop!!!"

My window was down and I had been watching with hawk-eyes for any sign of the elusive whitetail. Anybody that has "Road Hunted" knows that in timber, unless the deer moves, you will pert-neart never see him. As we rounded the curve and started down the hill I saw a deer move in the timber, up the hill, on the road bank.

A couple of things happened in that split second after I whispered for Dad to stop. First, he braked so hard that we slid for a few feet down the road, which put us Past the deer. And second, I saw that the deer was a buck and that it only had one horn... And it was standing stock still, in perfect position for a shot.

Some sort of instinct must have kicked in at that moment. I threw my 30-30 Winchester to my shoulder, took aim and squeezed the trigger! It was later that I realized that I was shooting uphill, from a very awkward position and Left-Handed! I should have missed... But I didn't!

The little buck ran down the road bank and across the road behind our truck. His head was down, his tail clamped to his rear end as he crossed and Dad said "You hit him good!" He pulled the truck to the side of the road and we got out to trail him.

We found him about fifty yards down a ridge top, dead as a hammer!

Since I was in my school clothes, I was spared the requirement of gutting my first deer kill. However, Dad left me with the arduous task of dragging the deer back up the ridge to the truck!

This was before the days of Tele-check so we took ole "Lop Horn" to the check station on Preacher Roe Boulevard and got "legally" checked in. Then we drove back home to show Mom and get him strung up to cool.

When the deer was tied up and I was cleaned up, Dad took me on to school... With my very own "Deer Story" to tell!

*In the spirit of full disclosure, let me say that I do not condone illegal hunting activity such as I have described here. For any outdoor activities I now undertake to enjoy, I strive to stay well within the bounds of legality. It is much more enjoyable to hunt and fish without having to "look over your shoulder" all the time.

A Day To Give Thanks

Plymouth Rock

As with Christmas, let us not forget the reason for the day. Most of us focus on the three "F's"; Family, Food, and Football, when we celebrate Thanksgiving.

But sometimes, we tend to forget that there is a fourth "F" that needs to be recognized above the other three.

It is our "Heavenly Father" that has given all of the blessings that we have enjoyed throughout the year. And whether we will acknowledge it or not, He is the one that should be thanked for all the blessings we enjoy.

And there is another "F" that should be considered. It is our "Forefathers". The Pilgrims. The 102 men, women and children that wanted nothing more than to escape from certain oppressions and have freedom to worship God, without interference of governments.

So Today, I Recommend:

"Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ" Ephesians 5:20

*The pictures are from our 2011 Anniversary Trip to New England

The MayFlower II

The Ozarks Deer Hunt - A Curious Rite Of Passage

From My Stand - Opening Morning - 2016 Deer Season

In the Ozarks, a young man's (or lady's) passage into acceptance as an equal, usually is the traditional firearms deer hunt. When you have spent your first morning, ALONE, in the dark woods, shivering (although you had more clothing insulation than a polar bear), and hearing noises that could only be the hoofsteps of a thirty-point buck or... BigFoot!; then you can stand with the rest of the grownups and recount your experience (whether deer blood was spilt or not).

The November Deer Hunt is the honeysuckle vine that grows in almost every Ozark Family Tree. When schools have to dismiss during deer season because so many kids are going deer hunting... It's serious! If you think about, Is the November Ozark greeting a "Hello!" or "Howdy!" or even "How's it Goin'?" Nope... It is the time honored "Git chee a deer?"

Now when I was growing up, there weren't no Youth Season. And, if I remember correctly, it lasted from Saturday to Sunday. Eight days instead of our present ten days.

Also, there weren't no Hunter Safety Course requirements. For the Riggs boys, it wasn't necessary. We had LRCAIOMAYIDDD... the "Leamon Riggs, Comprehensive, All Inclusive, One Mistake And You're In Deep DooDoo" hunting and firearm safety course!

I distinctly remember those first early mornings going out to the deer woods. While I was enrolled in the LRCAIOMAYIDDD, I sat with Dad and he "showed me the ropes". He (almost) always hunted from the ground. (I say "almost" because there was that one time....) We would arrive at the selected spot in the dark and pick out a nice big tree to back up against. He would instruct me to clear an area where we were going to sit so we wouldn't be rustling around in the leaves and scaring off all the deer. We would dig out little depressions for our heineys... OK...we would dig out big depressions for our heineys, sit in them and then get up and dig out any protruding rocks that could make sitting even more uncomfortable. After Dad got all settled in, he would jack a shell into his trusty, gold-trigger, 30-30 Marlin and we were set for the next couple of hours.

The season finally came when Dad deemed my training to be complete enough for me to "go solo". The step from a protègè to pursuer, from sidekick to slayer, from apostle to assassin... Well...You get the picture!

I got up way before daylight that morning to begin the process of dressing. I would start layering on the clothes. Insulated underwear, thick socks, blue jeans, flannel shirt, another flannel shirt, a winter coat, insulated coveralls... And then I had to put my boots on. By then, I had so many layers on, I couldn't bend down and Pull my boots on, let alone tie them! This was very frustrating... I remember my dear sweet Mother coming into the bedroom and helping me with my boots... And by the time we were finished, she was chuckling, cackling and even out-right laughing at my predicament! I wasn't amused...

Dad, Ralph, and I loaded up in the old 1976 white Ford truck and headed east to Roy Merritt's place, just west of the Howell-Oregon county line. We turned off 160 Highway at Rountree Corner and drove north to the cross road. Then, we went east from the cross road to the trail that led north to the old Forest Dell School. We parked the truck on the county road, piled out and gathered up all our equipment... Which (unlike today) consisted of gloves, orange hat and vest and our rifles.

Ralph took off walking to his stand farther east across another county road and Dad and I started walking north toward the old schoolhouse. It was still awhile before daylight so even though there was some light from the east, the woods were dark and kinda spooky as we soft-footed along to our stands. We passed up the old Forest Dell school building, which was dilapidated and actually just creepy looking in the half-light. The trail kept going past the schoolhouse and when we had walked a few hundred feet farther, Dad said "This looks pretty good".  He pointed out a big tree, right beside the trail and told me "I'd set right there." He informed me that he was going on to his stand, he would be back in a couple of hours, if I shot one, just sit tight, and be watching and listening for him when he came back. And he walked off with his slow, easy walk.

I cleaned out beneath the tree, fixed a place for my Gluteus Maximus, thumbed some slugs into Dad's old double-barrel shotgun and settled down to wait for "The Big One".

For those of you that have been there; How do you describe those first few minutes of darkness, quietness, and complete aloneness? After a few minutes, your ears start adjusting to the "quiet" and then things get loud. There is probably some nitwit poet that has described the woods as "quiet" or "silent" or "hushed" or "still". It ain't so!! Leaves rustle (for no apparent reason), twigs or leaves fall from trees and sound like a sack of potatoes hitting the ground, the footsteps of three-hundred pound squirrels are heard everywhere, cows bawling in the distance and sometimes a old donkey braying his thanks to the morning. And then there are the birds... Blue Jays, Juncos, Tufted Titmouses, Woodpeckers, Flickers, Pileated Woodpeckers, all with their own distinct calls and sounds. The Crows deserve a sentence all to themselves...It is no wonder that Noah got rid of the one on the Ark! He couldn't stand the noise another second! And then, a whole flock of sparrows will fly over at mach speed - they are making no bird sounds but the best way to describe it is the wing-noise of 150 miniature jets, flying over you at 500 MPH! The woods may be "Lovely, Dark, and Deep" but they are not Quiet!

And then the day starts to break... Now, you can't really describe those first shafts of sunlight, coming over the horizon as romantic (Cause by then you're freezing and scared spitless, For Crying Out Loud!) but they are... elegant, graceful, and even pulchritudinous.

Dad had trained me well to be listening, watching and making no sudden moves. I watched in what I call "Cow Fashion." Have you ever watched a cow, watching you walk or drive across a field. They follow you with their eyes, without turning their heads, until you go out of their range of view. Then they turn their heads to look directly at you and start the process again. And I listened... Did you know if you listen hard enough, you can hear the Ghost Deer walking in the leaves? At least that's how it seemed to me. I would hear a deer walking up behind me. I was positive of it. So positive in fact, that I began shivering and shaking with the "Buck Aggers"... Only to be disappointed by a big-footed chipmunk or squirrel that came bounding by my stand!

When it was good daylight, and I had been sitting for an hour or so, something magical happened. To my right, up the trail toward the old schoolhouse, and not over a hundred feet away, two does just appeared. How do they do that? I was watching and listening but they still snuck up on me!

They started ambling down the trail toward me. They would stop, look around, nibble buds from limbs, flip their tails and continue on toward me. Now, in this era of time, the only time you could shoot does (or antlerless deer) was the last day of the season, which was a Sunday. Shooting an illegal deer would have violated LRCAIOMAYIDDD so ALL I could do was was sit as still as I could and watch! They kept getting closer and closer... Finally, they were right in front of me! Within ten feet! To this day, I do not know HOW they didn't see me or smell me! They passed by and continued slowly feeding their way down the old trail and out of sight.

Within a few minutes, after they went out of sight, the adrenaline rush was over and the sweat began to cool in the morning cold and I started shivering and shaking! This continued for quite awhile until the sun began to shine full on me... then I got warm and sleepy. I watched, dozed, listened until I caught sight of Dad working his way up through the timber toward me.

Of course, his first question was; "See anything?" And that's when I stepped into that mysterious position of being (somewhat) an equal with my old Dad. I had my own "Deer Story" to tell!